Anxiety, self-esteem, the fights that keep repeating. It is not a character flaw. It is a pattern, and patterns can be worked with.
Not this exact argument. But this feeling. One of you gets louder, one of you goes quiet, and by the time it is over, nothing got resolved. You both went to bed still holding it.
Or maybe it is not about conflict at all. Maybe it is the anxiety that shows up before an important conversation, the self-doubt that sits underneath everything, the sense that you keep running into the same wall in yourself.
These things are not random. They are patterns. And understanding the pattern is where change actually begins.
Most of what we struggle with in relationships and in ourselves has roots that go deeper than the current moment. Underneath the conflict, the avoidance, the overreaction: two nervous systems doing exactly what they were shaped to do.
The work is not about fixing something broken. It is about understanding what the nervous system learned, and creating enough safety for something new to become possible.
The frameworks I orient by — somatic work, NARM, and Emotionally Focused Therapy — have shaped how I think about this work and what I find most useful. Each one starts with the body before the story, the pattern before the content, the nervous system before the advice.
I work with people who want to understand what is happening inside them and between them, not just manage it. My focus is on the nervous system layer underneath behaviour: what gets activated, why, and how it changes.
I have committed to four frameworks: somatic approaches, NARM, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and ACT. They are what I find most true. My ACT certification is in its final stage; formal training in the others is next on the path.
Warm, curious, direct. I work in English and Russian.
Advanced Diploma in Psychology, Psychodemia · 2026 · ACT certification in progress
And what falls outside my scope.
The five nervous-system practices I recommend most: for the middle of a fight, for after, and for prevention. One page. No email required.
The first conversation is always free: a 25-minute intro call to see whether the work is a fit, with no obligation on either side.
The intro call is free, 25 minutes, with no obligation on either side. Ask questions, tell me your pattern, and see whether the work is a fit.